I am always excited to get a Mark Driscoll book. Confessions of a Reformission Rev and Death by Love are two of my all time favorite books. Real Marriage is Mark and Grace Driscoll’s entrance into the conversation for Christian marriage. It seems that most of the controversy and debate extends around the chapter “Can We ____” which is a nuts and bolts look at sex within the boundaries of marriage. Mark boldly makes statements that he bases on a biblical perspective, his goal is to examine what the bible says he then combines this by asking 3 questions “Is it Lawful, Is it Helpful and Is it enslaving?”
I appreciate Mark’s willingness to be bold, it makes a nice change from books that don’t ruffle feathers because they are afraid of who the might offend. John MacArthur won’t be too thrilled with his interpretation of Song of Solomon, but it might make you read scripture a little more!
The books strength for me lies in his conversation on friendship. He takes the time to examine some famous Christian’s marriages and has a conversation about the necessity to be friend and do face-to-face ministry together. This particular idea makes the book worth it.
His insights on serving and humility are great and a helpful reminder. Grace’s transparency talking about struggles and sexual abuse make for a bold and insightful chapter, and her willingness to share makes the book really engaging. Both the chapter on sexual abuse and pornography contain a great many statistics (which I appreciate) and are deeply insightful, again making bold statements.
The book concludes with a chapter on reverse-engineering your marriage, “the most important day is your last.” I love the idea of finishing strong and the book makes a great case for building a marriage that “ends” well. Mark and Grace write a polarizing book, be prepared for bold statements and a willingness to comment on the potentially “off-limits”. I think the book is excellent, but I am also a fan of their ministry, so this review might be a little biased!